The companion to Motherless. On the noble masculine we have never been allowed to meet, and why everything we are living through right now also depends on his return.
Since Motherless and Fatherless went out into the world, I have received a thoughtful and important letter from a reader who is a trans man, asking where the trans and non-binary community fits inside this framework. I want to answer publicly, because the question deserves a public answer.
The Sacred Feminine and the Sacred Masculine are not biological categories. They are archetypal frequencies. They live in every human being. We all carry both within us, and the work of Sacred Union, what the alchemists called coniunctio. And what every wisdom tradition has understood at its depths, happens inside every soul, regardless of the body it lives in.
When I write in the language of women and men, I am writing into a cultural wound that has been enacted along binary lines. The website. The legislation. The Epstein files. The structures of patriarchy that have hurt all of us. Those have been organised through a binary, and exposing that binary is part of the diagnostic work of the series.
But the medicine, the calling home of the Mother and the Father, is for everyone. There is no version of this work that does not include trans women, trans men, non-binary people, and every human being who has felt the severance and is finding their way back to the Whole. The trans women who mother. The trans men reclaiming the noble masculine in themselves. The non-binary souls integrating both within. You are doing the deepest archetypal work there is. You belong inside this conversation. You have always belonged inside it.
If my language has not always made this clear, I want to make it clear now. The time of the apocalypse- and reckoning it is bringing, is for all of us. The return of the Mother and the Father is the return of the Whole, and the Whole has no exclusions. It cannot. That is the whole point.
Thank you to the reader who wrote in. Your letter is the kind of generosity that makes this work better.
Yes, please! Before I share both of your articles with my gay son, my trans grandson, and my favorite wuzzband (the 40-year-old virgin), I'd like to know that your Note on Language and Belonging is included, perhaps as a preface rather than as a footnote.
Thank you for this note, especially in these times when trans and nonbinary people are the subjects of the gender culture war, a war that exists because of patriarchal norms. As a mother of a trans man and a psychotherapist who has worked extensively with the trans and nonbinary community, these folks struggle in part because there are very few role models for how to embrace the sacred feminine and masculine within our culture. So they do the best they can to fight for their existence while they watch their rights to explore and express the masculine and feminine energies within them erode. They may be doing the deep archetypical work, but unless we recognize and support their journeys and include them in our cries for NO MORE, they will continue to suffer.
We won’t agree, totally fine. There will only and ever be 2 genders; Fact.
Humans are defiant still. I actually like that. I can appreciate challenging tradition and ideology. Nonetheless, we’re inevitably bound by natural law.
Not everyone believes in facts, like religious people. It will never not mean such people will spend existence trying to ice skate uphill. No one cares as long as you keep it private.
The math is poor for the “non-binary” bunch. They’ve subscribed to the idea that there’s binaries and non-binaries…which is just another binary system. 💀
"They" (tic) outside the gender binary didn't choose to be lumped as one group. Mainstream didn't listen to objections about the language, and paved right over reality.
Language is biased and flawed. Many of us outside the mainstream gender binary didn't do well when the style manuals for journalism defined gender as cisgender or transgender (only). Genderqueer or nonbinary folks were ambiguously lumped in as "transgender." Many genderqueer and nonbinary folks raised the objection that they weren't "transitioning" genders or "crossing" genders, they just existed as they were, outside of the binary expectations.
Some of us fled to the labels agender or apogender, as opt-outs.
The nature of patriarchy is to suppress and subvert awakened masculine and empowered feminine archetypes. I believe that recent decades trying to control and enforce behavior along gender lines has heightened feelings of dysphoria in nearly everyone, even if they hold power in the mainstream system.
If we had wider tolerance and acceptance for gender expression--and indeed did not attribute so much of human behavior as an expression related to gender at all--how many people would feel more ease and support around questions of personal expression, gender concepts, or medicalized transitioning choices?
No. I don’t have to tolerate or accept. Nor does any of this have anything to do with the illusory “Patriarchy”argument. There will always and only be 2 genders. Doesn’t mean I can’t treat a human as lesser though. Kindness is easy. But gender isn’t an expression.
If you cannot allow someone to be their own authority on whether concepts forced upon them are a fit, you are denying basic agency, and gaslighting self-awareness.
No. I live in factuality. How you FEEL about reality means nothing to me or the rest of the world. Life goes on. Be what/who you want. Facts will always be facts.
Thank you for being honest about where you stand. I will be the same.
I do not think two genders is a fact. I think it is one cosmology among many, held by a particular tradition, and treated as nature by people who have not looked carefully at the much wider variety of gender expression that has existed across cultures and across time. The hijra of South Asia, the two-spirit traditions of many Indigenous nations, the fa'afafine of Samoa, the māhū of Hawaii — these are not modern inventions. They are older than the binary you are calling natural law, and they are evidence that the human story has always held more than two.
But I am not going to argue with you about it, because you have already told me you will not move, and I respect that as your position. I am also not going to soften my own. There are more than two genders. Trans people exist. Nonbinary people exist. Their existence is not contingent on your agreement, and their wholeness is not in question because someone has decided to call a particular cosmology fact.
I appreciate the directness of your comment. We disagree, and that is fine. But I will not stand by a we won't agree, totally fine if it requires me to pretend that the disagreement is only about ideology. It is about people's lives. And the impact of the words that we speak.
I have been quietly formulating a better vision of masculinity to write about to the male (and female) audience and you summed it up perfectly. At the centre of it are the words nobility and honour. Two deeply masculine words which describe the true alpha (i.e. the masculine hero) and which are entirely foreign to today's misogynist males.
I just wanted to let you know that there are men on the other side who not only hear your message. It is a calling which has been rising in some of us. I showed my son a film involving male honour the other day and I was crying through most of it. It's a world we've lost and if I can I'd like to be a voice calling for it to come back
Thank you for being that man. I feel your tears and I really appreciate your words. I have such hope on my heart for the awakening of the men and women and truly all beings together. 🙏🏽🌹
To Christopher: I’d like to suggest that the whole categorization of men into "alpha" and "non-alpha" types may itself come from the same patriarchal root - the idea that masculinity has to be organized through hierarchy and status, and expressed in a very specific narrow way. I’d also question the idea of the "masculine hero". Hero narratives often depend on a certain drama triangle hierarchy too: a hero, a victim, and a perpetrator.
It has taken me 20 years of men’s work to get to the place where I could read your pieces and really feel their activating effects. I’m writing this having come from a community grief ritual where I was held by a woman as I wailed the loss of Mother.
Now, to read this, I see my path forward. I have been and I am bringing the noble father back with the men in my community. And now, I’m bringing myself and them to kneel before the Mother.
Our next ritual is “A Return to Mother”. May more trees begin to move.
Thank you for naming both—motherless and fatherless. We are what Robert Bly called a sibling society. We are mostly without elders to ground us in the felt sense that we belong to ourselves and each other, to earth and cosmos.
Wow, this hit harder than Motherless for me. We need both the Mother and Father to be whole. The Nobel Father is someone I want in my life. I have seen him in a few men that I know, but not enough. I see The Noble Father in my son.
Racing to my husband to hug him and tell him that I see his struggle with inner work, that I have witnessed his growth, that I appreciate all of the effort, and that he is loved. So very loved.
"And the men are not patriarchy’s beneficiaries. They are its foot soldiers. Its casualties. Its orphans."
Another incredible, packed-full, impactful deep dive. I thank you and I will pass this on to my son, other men, women, people. This is a WHOLE problem. Thank you.
“His absence is what we are paying for. In bloodshed. In greed. In the abuse on the bodies of women and children. In a culture that cannot feel itself.
And the men who are doing the harm are also the men whose fathers never blessed them, whose elders never initiated them, whose culture handed them a counterfeit of themselves and told them to perform it or die.”
I have seen what fatherlessness did within my own family. It really was a microcosm of what has been happening within human societies for millenia. I am not ready to write about it yet. I'll need to sit down with pen and paper first. This may take a good long while.
As for the archetypal -- yes, we need Osiris Rising, unwrapped from the shrouds, strolling the barren fields and dying forests with Aset/Isis beside him, bringing back the life the world is supposed to have. We've had to live with Set Ruling for far too long. Constant war for empire, for resource control, resource extraction. The tide is turning, slowly enough to break our hearts, but it is turning.
Beautiful! Yes, the noble masculine. This is the canvas for men to paint our lives. The Divine Feminine and the Noble Masculine is a mirror to reflect the inner framework of our Humanity. Masculinity, at least in my journey as a man, has been ripped from the sacred art of inter-being and intra-being with other men and estrangedfrom women.
As men we are constantly at war within ourselves and between each other. We have become isolated, rudderless and removed in a world that uses us as killers fighting this and that perceived enemy at the behest of our fathers who have followed suit since we were isolated from our tribes and were conscripted in some authority's will.
Only to fight the unwinnable battle of someone else's war. Berserkers.
We are constantly told not to live in homeostasis, rather dishomeostasis and dysregulation. We have lost our center and thereby lost our nobility and sacred identity.
Our mothers could not protect us us from our fathers and our fathers were and are lost in the morass of our own brutalized psyche. Competition, dominance, externalized identity – lost in structures of patriarchy, patriotism, and endentured servitude –in some other men's war. We are bereft of any moral center or sacred hearth when we were and are ripped from our mother's womb.
We are always leaving home on our heroe's journey. Sometimes there's a home and hearth to which to return and sometimes, oftentimes, the home has moved on. We lost the home we never had and we return, weary and worn, to the void, homeless, begging on street corners displaced and destitute.
As a result, our inner 'struggle', 'kampf' or 'jihad' as has been articulated, has weakened our bond with the Mother.
Our displaced heroe's journey to reclaim our Nobility and Sacred Identity has estranged us from ourselves and fueled our inner rage; because our fathers and their fathers have lost their-our– internal compass that was to guide us on our journey, through our lives as men, and return home to Divine Feminine. Who is to welcome us hom? I don't know.
Where did we go? Where did our mothers, sisters and wives go? We are all lost seeking to be reunited into our Humanity and human Homeostatic Equilibrium.
Our sacred inner struggle has almost been erased due to the static and background noise of what we call life.
The Noble Masculine has been marred and disfigured as we look into our lagging consciousness as men. We lost sight of the Archetypal resonance and the deep inner framework of our inner-human-resonance.
As a result of our disfigured masculinity, this wounded feral masculinity, destroys hearth and home and obscures our enwombed sacred identity.
We have been left on the steppes and on battlefields and we have isolated ourselves in monastic sterility. We lost sight of our role in the sacred family and with divine femininity at the sacred hearth.
Boys are taught to ignore the Mother or else become weak and effeminate. Thereby unable to perform the duties of a 'man' in this twisted horror-scape of masculinity, which is to procreate, dominate, segregate, and as a result, delineate ourselves from our own story.
We are left to die alone and nameless in some pauper's grave of masculine anonymity and misidentity.
Who is that masked man? What is he like? Does he know the sacred divinity of his own inter-being? Can he reclaim his place alongside the Mother as sacred Unity – a sacred Humanity?
You have written such beautiful words that strike deep in my interbeing. You have voiced the Mother's deepest desire to call out to men that it's safe to come home now. Let us embrace each other in Divine Unity.
Elayne! My god. I don’t even have words for how monumental your two pieces are. The way you name it, explain it and present a path forward is awe-inspiring. I am truly blown away by your writing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for channeling all this potent truth out into the world. All my love ♥️🙏🏻
What to say… thank you. I hear your voice and I hear Spirit’s awakening. I feel it. I have been involved in a small organic men’s work group called the Connecticut men’s gathering, COMEGA for short, for 20 years. I had a sense something new was arising there. Two weekends a year I stepped into a different paradigm l. Now I can name it, the arising of the true father. Many times I said to others we seemed to be growing each other up. I now see that behind that is likely a deep force attempting to reawaken. My heart aches because the group is so small compared to the pain of the world. But there are others awakening throughout the world I’m sure of it, based on the resonance of this writing. Thank you. In love, Louie
I think about my grandfather a lot. He was a man a few words we all knew who he was, and he always took the time with any of us. He was steadfast. He was honest he was real. And he made a difference.
You forget the strength in the quiet.
Something Strong doesn’t need to announce himself with banners and flashing and colors and sound they just are. When my grandfather passed, the family started to fragment. Different cousins moving, the different members went their own way, which is fine that’s part of life, but having that anchor point allowed us to build our own lives, knowing what we were building towards. That’s something sadly that’s missing. It’s been replaced with the noise. It’s been replaced with belief that you deserve stuff instead of have to earn. Not realizing that peace and solidness is forged not a birthright.
This is a good piece you made me think about my grandfather a lot I miss him
A note on language and belonging
Since Motherless and Fatherless went out into the world, I have received a thoughtful and important letter from a reader who is a trans man, asking where the trans and non-binary community fits inside this framework. I want to answer publicly, because the question deserves a public answer.
The Sacred Feminine and the Sacred Masculine are not biological categories. They are archetypal frequencies. They live in every human being. We all carry both within us, and the work of Sacred Union, what the alchemists called coniunctio. And what every wisdom tradition has understood at its depths, happens inside every soul, regardless of the body it lives in.
When I write in the language of women and men, I am writing into a cultural wound that has been enacted along binary lines. The website. The legislation. The Epstein files. The structures of patriarchy that have hurt all of us. Those have been organised through a binary, and exposing that binary is part of the diagnostic work of the series.
But the medicine, the calling home of the Mother and the Father, is for everyone. There is no version of this work that does not include trans women, trans men, non-binary people, and every human being who has felt the severance and is finding their way back to the Whole. The trans women who mother. The trans men reclaiming the noble masculine in themselves. The non-binary souls integrating both within. You are doing the deepest archetypal work there is. You belong inside this conversation. You have always belonged inside it.
If my language has not always made this clear, I want to make it clear now. The time of the apocalypse- and reckoning it is bringing, is for all of us. The return of the Mother and the Father is the return of the Whole, and the Whole has no exclusions. It cannot. That is the whole point.
Thank you to the reader who wrote in. Your letter is the kind of generosity that makes this work better.
in love and devotion Elayne Kalila 🌹
This would be worth putting as a post script for both articles since not everyone reads the notes. Thank you for your wisdom, compassion, and energy.
Thank you love I will do!
Yes, please! Before I share both of your articles with my gay son, my trans grandson, and my favorite wuzzband (the 40-year-old virgin), I'd like to know that your Note on Language and Belonging is included, perhaps as a preface rather than as a footnote.
Thank you for this note, especially in these times when trans and nonbinary people are the subjects of the gender culture war, a war that exists because of patriarchal norms. As a mother of a trans man and a psychotherapist who has worked extensively with the trans and nonbinary community, these folks struggle in part because there are very few role models for how to embrace the sacred feminine and masculine within our culture. So they do the best they can to fight for their existence while they watch their rights to explore and express the masculine and feminine energies within them erode. They may be doing the deep archetypical work, but unless we recognize and support their journeys and include them in our cries for NO MORE, they will continue to suffer.
We won’t agree, totally fine. There will only and ever be 2 genders; Fact.
Humans are defiant still. I actually like that. I can appreciate challenging tradition and ideology. Nonetheless, we’re inevitably bound by natural law.
Not everyone believes in facts, like religious people. It will never not mean such people will spend existence trying to ice skate uphill. No one cares as long as you keep it private.
The math is poor for the “non-binary” bunch. They’ve subscribed to the idea that there’s binaries and non-binaries…which is just another binary system. 💀
"They" (tic) outside the gender binary didn't choose to be lumped as one group. Mainstream didn't listen to objections about the language, and paved right over reality.
Language is biased and flawed. Many of us outside the mainstream gender binary didn't do well when the style manuals for journalism defined gender as cisgender or transgender (only). Genderqueer or nonbinary folks were ambiguously lumped in as "transgender." Many genderqueer and nonbinary folks raised the objection that they weren't "transitioning" genders or "crossing" genders, they just existed as they were, outside of the binary expectations.
Some of us fled to the labels agender or apogender, as opt-outs.
The nature of patriarchy is to suppress and subvert awakened masculine and empowered feminine archetypes. I believe that recent decades trying to control and enforce behavior along gender lines has heightened feelings of dysphoria in nearly everyone, even if they hold power in the mainstream system.
If we had wider tolerance and acceptance for gender expression--and indeed did not attribute so much of human behavior as an expression related to gender at all--how many people would feel more ease and support around questions of personal expression, gender concepts, or medicalized transitioning choices?
No. I don’t have to tolerate or accept. Nor does any of this have anything to do with the illusory “Patriarchy”argument. There will always and only be 2 genders. Doesn’t mean I can’t treat a human as lesser though. Kindness is easy. But gender isn’t an expression.
Unkind.
If you cannot allow someone to be their own authority on whether concepts forced upon them are a fit, you are denying basic agency, and gaslighting self-awareness.
No. I live in factuality. How you FEEL about reality means nothing to me or the rest of the world. Life goes on. Be what/who you want. Facts will always be facts.
Thank you for being honest about where you stand. I will be the same.
I do not think two genders is a fact. I think it is one cosmology among many, held by a particular tradition, and treated as nature by people who have not looked carefully at the much wider variety of gender expression that has existed across cultures and across time. The hijra of South Asia, the two-spirit traditions of many Indigenous nations, the fa'afafine of Samoa, the māhū of Hawaii — these are not modern inventions. They are older than the binary you are calling natural law, and they are evidence that the human story has always held more than two.
But I am not going to argue with you about it, because you have already told me you will not move, and I respect that as your position. I am also not going to soften my own. There are more than two genders. Trans people exist. Nonbinary people exist. Their existence is not contingent on your agreement, and their wholeness is not in question because someone has decided to call a particular cosmology fact.
I appreciate the directness of your comment. We disagree, and that is fine. But I will not stand by a we won't agree, totally fine if it requires me to pretend that the disagreement is only about ideology. It is about people's lives. And the impact of the words that we speak.
I have been quietly formulating a better vision of masculinity to write about to the male (and female) audience and you summed it up perfectly. At the centre of it are the words nobility and honour. Two deeply masculine words which describe the true alpha (i.e. the masculine hero) and which are entirely foreign to today's misogynist males.
I just wanted to let you know that there are men on the other side who not only hear your message. It is a calling which has been rising in some of us. I showed my son a film involving male honour the other day and I was crying through most of it. It's a world we've lost and if I can I'd like to be a voice calling for it to come back
Thank you for being that man. I feel your tears and I really appreciate your words. I have such hope on my heart for the awakening of the men and women and truly all beings together. 🙏🏽🌹
To Christopher: I’d like to suggest that the whole categorization of men into "alpha" and "non-alpha" types may itself come from the same patriarchal root - the idea that masculinity has to be organized through hierarchy and status, and expressed in a very specific narrow way. I’d also question the idea of the "masculine hero". Hero narratives often depend on a certain drama triangle hierarchy too: a hero, a victim, and a perpetrator.
And again Elayne
Thank you 🙏
It has taken me 20 years of men’s work to get to the place where I could read your pieces and really feel their activating effects. I’m writing this having come from a community grief ritual where I was held by a woman as I wailed the loss of Mother.
Now, to read this, I see my path forward. I have been and I am bringing the noble father back with the men in my community. And now, I’m bringing myself and them to kneel before the Mother.
Our next ritual is “A Return to Mother”. May more trees begin to move.
Thank you for naming both—motherless and fatherless. We are what Robert Bly called a sibling society. We are mostly without elders to ground us in the felt sense that we belong to ourselves and each other, to earth and cosmos.
Wow, this hit harder than Motherless for me. We need both the Mother and Father to be whole. The Nobel Father is someone I want in my life. I have seen him in a few men that I know, but not enough. I see The Noble Father in my son.
Racing to my husband to hug him and tell him that I see his struggle with inner work, that I have witnessed his growth, that I appreciate all of the effort, and that he is loved. So very loved.
"And the men are not patriarchy’s beneficiaries. They are its foot soldiers. Its casualties. Its orphans."
Another incredible, packed-full, impactful deep dive. I thank you and I will pass this on to my son, other men, women, people. This is a WHOLE problem. Thank you.
Such an important essay:
“His absence is what we are paying for. In bloodshed. In greed. In the abuse on the bodies of women and children. In a culture that cannot feel itself.
And the men who are doing the harm are also the men whose fathers never blessed them, whose elders never initiated them, whose culture handed them a counterfeit of themselves and told them to perform it or die.”
I have seen what fatherlessness did within my own family. It really was a microcosm of what has been happening within human societies for millenia. I am not ready to write about it yet. I'll need to sit down with pen and paper first. This may take a good long while.
As for the archetypal -- yes, we need Osiris Rising, unwrapped from the shrouds, strolling the barren fields and dying forests with Aset/Isis beside him, bringing back the life the world is supposed to have. We've had to live with Set Ruling for far too long. Constant war for empire, for resource control, resource extraction. The tide is turning, slowly enough to break our hearts, but it is turning.
Beautiful! Yes, the noble masculine. This is the canvas for men to paint our lives. The Divine Feminine and the Noble Masculine is a mirror to reflect the inner framework of our Humanity. Masculinity, at least in my journey as a man, has been ripped from the sacred art of inter-being and intra-being with other men and estrangedfrom women.
As men we are constantly at war within ourselves and between each other. We have become isolated, rudderless and removed in a world that uses us as killers fighting this and that perceived enemy at the behest of our fathers who have followed suit since we were isolated from our tribes and were conscripted in some authority's will.
Only to fight the unwinnable battle of someone else's war. Berserkers.
We are constantly told not to live in homeostasis, rather dishomeostasis and dysregulation. We have lost our center and thereby lost our nobility and sacred identity.
Our mothers could not protect us us from our fathers and our fathers were and are lost in the morass of our own brutalized psyche. Competition, dominance, externalized identity – lost in structures of patriarchy, patriotism, and endentured servitude –in some other men's war. We are bereft of any moral center or sacred hearth when we were and are ripped from our mother's womb.
We are always leaving home on our heroe's journey. Sometimes there's a home and hearth to which to return and sometimes, oftentimes, the home has moved on. We lost the home we never had and we return, weary and worn, to the void, homeless, begging on street corners displaced and destitute.
As a result, our inner 'struggle', 'kampf' or 'jihad' as has been articulated, has weakened our bond with the Mother.
Our displaced heroe's journey to reclaim our Nobility and Sacred Identity has estranged us from ourselves and fueled our inner rage; because our fathers and their fathers have lost their-our– internal compass that was to guide us on our journey, through our lives as men, and return home to Divine Feminine. Who is to welcome us hom? I don't know.
Where did we go? Where did our mothers, sisters and wives go? We are all lost seeking to be reunited into our Humanity and human Homeostatic Equilibrium.
Our sacred inner struggle has almost been erased due to the static and background noise of what we call life.
The Noble Masculine has been marred and disfigured as we look into our lagging consciousness as men. We lost sight of the Archetypal resonance and the deep inner framework of our inner-human-resonance.
As a result of our disfigured masculinity, this wounded feral masculinity, destroys hearth and home and obscures our enwombed sacred identity.
We have been left on the steppes and on battlefields and we have isolated ourselves in monastic sterility. We lost sight of our role in the sacred family and with divine femininity at the sacred hearth.
Boys are taught to ignore the Mother or else become weak and effeminate. Thereby unable to perform the duties of a 'man' in this twisted horror-scape of masculinity, which is to procreate, dominate, segregate, and as a result, delineate ourselves from our own story.
We are left to die alone and nameless in some pauper's grave of masculine anonymity and misidentity.
Who is that masked man? What is he like? Does he know the sacred divinity of his own inter-being? Can he reclaim his place alongside the Mother as sacred Unity – a sacred Humanity?
You have written such beautiful words that strike deep in my interbeing. You have voiced the Mother's deepest desire to call out to men that it's safe to come home now. Let us embrace each other in Divine Unity.
"There's something happening here
What it is ain't exactly clear
There's a man with a gun over there
A-telling me I got to beware
I think it's time we stop
Children, what's that sound?
Everybody look what's going down
There's battle lines being drawn
Nobody's right if everybody's wrong
Young people speaking their minds
Are getting so much resistance from behind
Time we stop
Hey, what's that sound?
Everybody look what's going down
What a field-day for the heat
A thousand people in the street
Singing songs and a-carrying signs
Mostly say hooray for our side
It's time we stop
Hey, what's that sound?
Everybody look what's going down
Paranoia strikes deep
Into your life it will creep
It starts when you're always afraid
Step out of line, the man come and take you away
We better stop
Hey, what's that sound?
Everybody look what's going down
We better stop
Hey, what's that sound?
Everybody look what's going down
We better stop now
What's that sound?
Everybody look what's going down
We better stop
Children, what's that sound?
Everybody look what's going down"
Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Stephen Stills
For What It's Worth lyrics © Cotillion Music Inc., Springalo Toones, Ten East Music, Richie Furay Music Buffalo Springfield
Superb piece of writing! Hits in the gut and heart. Sobbing. Thank you😢❤️🌷
Lost Boys
No longer sharing a field at harvest,
men’s bodies glistening with sweat
and a common silence.
Seeing his father’s blood from a sharpened scythe.
Knowing what it means to bleed.
Now… starched shirts out the door… crisp and conforming.
Never knowing that the fourth beer is the bandage for his wounds,
when whiteness and submission return from a field…
he has never smelled nor seen.
And the boy out into another dark night
wearing a t-shirt with bold words, “No Fear”,
Wounded but without a story or a scar to share.
Michael Tscheu
In memory of Robert Bly
Elayne! My god. I don’t even have words for how monumental your two pieces are. The way you name it, explain it and present a path forward is awe-inspiring. I am truly blown away by your writing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for channeling all this potent truth out into the world. All my love ♥️🙏🏻
@Justine Realized thank you for taking the time to read and feel the calling. I am right there with you. 🙏🏽🌹
What to say… thank you. I hear your voice and I hear Spirit’s awakening. I feel it. I have been involved in a small organic men’s work group called the Connecticut men’s gathering, COMEGA for short, for 20 years. I had a sense something new was arising there. Two weekends a year I stepped into a different paradigm l. Now I can name it, the arising of the true father. Many times I said to others we seemed to be growing each other up. I now see that behind that is likely a deep force attempting to reawaken. My heart aches because the group is so small compared to the pain of the world. But there are others awakening throughout the world I’m sure of it, based on the resonance of this writing. Thank you. In love, Louie
Presence.
An anchor point. Safety and strength. A harbor.
I think about my grandfather a lot. He was a man a few words we all knew who he was, and he always took the time with any of us. He was steadfast. He was honest he was real. And he made a difference.
You forget the strength in the quiet.
Something Strong doesn’t need to announce himself with banners and flashing and colors and sound they just are. When my grandfather passed, the family started to fragment. Different cousins moving, the different members went their own way, which is fine that’s part of life, but having that anchor point allowed us to build our own lives, knowing what we were building towards. That’s something sadly that’s missing. It’s been replaced with the noise. It’s been replaced with belief that you deserve stuff instead of have to earn. Not realizing that peace and solidness is forged not a birthright.
This is a good piece you made me think about my grandfather a lot I miss him
Thank you for this insight. May it spread widely.
Thank for for following up on this